What does Being A Good Listener say about Conflict & Communication?

When people assume there's a single 'right' way to do things, they leave no room for subjective experience, which causes intentions and emotions to be miscommunicated and drives people toward indirect alternatives.

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Anxious attachment produces procedural nagging because, fearing vulnerability, people avoid asking for emotional reassurance and instead channel insecurity into controlling routines or chores as a proxy for care.

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

John Gottman can predict relationship failure with over 90% accuracy because the presence and persistence of those specific negative communication patterns strongly correlate with later relationship dissolution.

Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse | The Gottman Institute: Relationship Behaviors that Lead to Failure

You get understood by teaching calmly because humiliation shrinks a person's capacity to learn, whereas relaxed patience helps partners actually hear and change.

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

Most of the time you'll ever spend with your parents has probably already happened because childhood concentrates daily proximity, and later annual visits represent only a small fraction of total possible time together.

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Love requires admitting vulnerability because saying 'I need you' and showing dependence allows intimacy to form, but the impulse to appear strong leads people to hide need and thereby undermine connection.

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

Contempt is the single strongest predictor of relationship failure because it expresses superiority and pervasive disrespect—through sarcasm, sneering, or mockery—that deeply damages mutual regard over time.

Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse | The Gottman Institute: Relationship Behaviors that Lead to Failure

Across primates, a higher neocortex-to-brain ratio predicts larger social groups because a bigger neocortex supports the social-cognitive capacity needed to track, remember, and manage more relationships.

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When listeners avoid moralizing and instead give small signals of acceptance, speakers feel safe to be vulnerable because they won't be punished socially for admitting faults.

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